I believe humans are predestinated to disappoint each other, and I believe that humans are corrupted by nature. Still, out of all of my beliefs, I’m convinced that humans are capable of forgiveness. I’ve come to realize this through painful experiences that ultimately changed the way I see the world, more in specific how I see humankind.
Three years ago, when I was fourteen, my mom realized my dad had been cheating on her since the day my half-sister came to live with them. So, this means my dad had been cheating on her even before I was born. The first year after this revelation was a living hell for me. At first, I hated my dad for being unfaithful and a liar, then I hated my mom for choosing to stay with him, and after some time, I grew bitter with my sister. I blamed her for running away from our problems. When I couldn’t blame anyone else, I even started to hate myself. When I turned sixteen, healing finally began to grow inside my heart; my mom eventually forgave my dad, they renewed their vows, and we moved into a new home, leaving the old house with our remorse abandoned in the past for good. But how did this happen? Well, there were a lot of tears, broken promises, and arguments. But during the process of the fights, I think forgiveness grew inside my mom.
Many people would argue that my mom was weak because she didn’t leave us. I would say my mom was strong-willed when she put her anger and pain aside to be compassionate with the men that hurt her the most. I’m not saying that humans should be obligated to endure suffering. Moreover, I think humans should transform the situation to make the pain go away. The solution is different for everyone, but for my mom, it was forgiveness. I also think she had a strong motive that helped her endure hard times. She wished that my sister and I could be happy and that we would always be able to really on our family.
This is why I think forgiving yourself and others is so important. Forgiveness exists for your growth and happiness. Because if humans hold on to pain, resentment, and hate, then they are harming themselves too. Forgiveness freed my mom from the past and the mistakes my dad committed. I have also realized that my mom forgave my dad so she could be happy.
Forgiveness is hard and that I can’t deny. Sometimes good things take time, but pardoning others allows us to move on with our lives without seeking revenge.
Forgiveness enables people to live peacefully; this is why I think it is worth it.
This experience allowed me to live my life differently. I no longer hate my dad or any member of my family, but I decided to take this lesson outside my family circle when I had to study abroad. I’ve come to realize that everywhere I go, I carry my beliefs with me and that there are always going to be people who are going to try to hurt others. So, what is my response to them? I believe in forgiveness because it gave me my family back. I believe in forgiveness because it makes me a better person every day, and when people hurt me, forgiveness sets me free.
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